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Ramsgate woman Verity Jones speaks of the joys of life without sex and her sperm-kit pregnancy

by Athena Stavrou

A woman who has been celibate for 11 years has related how she gave birth after inseminating herself with a £25 sperm kit she bought online.

Verity Jones has given up sex
Verity Jones has given up sex

Verity Jones, 35, from Ramsgate, said she gave up sex and relationships by accident - but doesn't miss them at all.

But when the philosophy student decided she wanted a child, she took matters into her own hands - literally.

Ms Jones obtained a free sperm kit online in December 2011 - she just had to pay £25 postage and packing - and gave birth the following September.

She is now a happy single mum to 10-year-old Holly - who is aware of how she came to be born.

Ms Jones said: "I had a bizarre dream about me being pregnant with a baby, it must've just been my biology telling me to hurry up.

"But I couldn't just go and have a baby with a random guy. So I organised a sperm donor online and inseminated myself."

Verity Jones with her baby from a sperm donation
Verity Jones with her baby from a sperm donation

She said: "People with a lot of money go through doctors and things, but I just signed some papers.

"He delivered his sperm in a donation pot and by some miracle it worked first time.

"We still talk every year on my daughter's birthday. It's worked out bizarrely well."

Ms Jones said she "thoroughly enjoyed sex" before going celibate.

But after too much "non-committed fun", she decided to give it up all up.

'I enjoyed sex a lot before that...'

She said: "It just kind of happened by accident 11 years ago when I was 24.

"One day I just thought, 'What's the point in this?

"I'm pansexual, so I'd mostly been with women - but some men too.

"I enjoyed sex a lot before that - it wasn't like I wasn't having it or committed to God.

"One day I just thought what's the point in this, maybe it was an early mid-life crisis but I was just fed up of non-committed fun."

Verity Jones today
Verity Jones today

Ms Jones said her daughter loves her mum's lifestyle choice and hopes it "can always be the two of them."

She has no plans for ever breaking her celibacy and said she now "hates the idea of being with someone romantically."

She said: "When I became celibate I thought I was choosing not to just for then, and thought maybe once Holly was older I would go back to it.

"But as time went on I hated the idea more and more - never again do I want anything like that again.

"I'm completely celibate in every way - physically and emotionally."

She said: "When I chose to have my daughter alone I chose to purposely not have another parent involved. I'm cynical of relationships.

"I don't believe in true love after hearing so many awful stories and I'd rather her have one parent than be parenting by a broken relationship.

"Being celibate means I can focus on myself rather than thinking about whether I'm pleasing someone else or feeling inferior or worrying I'm not all the things a partner would want.

"If I like things a certain way, then that's all that matters."

Despite everything, she said her mother still tried to encourage her to find a romantic connection.

Home insemination kits are readily available on Amazon - just add sperm
Home insemination kits are readily available on Amazon - just add sperm

And although friends tend to understand her sexual celibacy, they struggle to grasp the notion of being without a romantic relationship at all.

She said: "People do find it bizarre.

"If I post about it on Facebook, I get lots of shock faces and people asking, 'How could that happen? You're only 35 and already been celibate for eleven years?'

"People can usually understand the casual sex, but they don't quite understand the relationship aspect or get why I can be happy.

"They think I need a partner to be happy."

We don't all need a partner, says Verity Jones
We don't all need a partner, says Verity Jones

She said: "My mum always says why don't you settle down but I can't think of anything worse than someone sitting on my sofa waiting for me to do stuff for them.

"And I can barely share the bed with my cat never mind another person.

"Of course there are times I feel sad that I probably won't ever have sex again, and if I do I'll be like 60 and past the age of feeling like an attractive woman.

"It's not as if I don't have desires. I'm not asexual or a robot, I'm a woman and see Johnny Depp in the same way anyone else does - but it only lasts a minute and I move on.

"I'd definitely recommend this to others. Instead of crying because I've been cheated on I'm sitting peacefully at home with my cats."

The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority advises having the quality of donated sperm checked in advance
The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority advises having the quality of donated sperm checked in advance

The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority offers advice to those thinking of becoming pregnant by artificial insemination. Visit here for details.

Among its recommendations is always to have the quality of the donated sperm analysed in advance.

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