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Rochester charity gives Father's Day tips for families without dad

A charity has offered some tips for families who will be without a dad this Father's Day.

Rochester based Holding On Letting Go - which was set up to help people whose loved ones have died - have shared tips in the run up to June 21.

A bereavement charity has offered tips on how to cope with Father's Day if your children's dad has died. Picture: Stock
A bereavement charity has offered tips on how to cope with Father's Day if your children's dad has died. Picture: Stock

The charity, in High Bank, says Father's Day is still "a dreaded day" for children and their close family if their dad has died.

It added: "For the children, they are usually in school at this time of year and often have the chance to make a gift or card.

"For the mum, she may have lots of Father’s Day-themed emails about ‘the perfect gift’, treat or day out – and be wondering how to cope with the looming celebration day for her and her children.

"It’s something we’ve already been speaking to our families about, to help them cope in the run-up to the date, on the day and beyond.

"Often we find it’s the anxiety and worry that is worse than the actual day and with a bit of planning, communication and recognition of the day, it won’t be nearly as bad.

"If you prepare, it will reduce anxiety and help to manage the day..."

"If it is still difficult, we are here to help you some more. Our families are often in touch to ask for help at various times throughout the year or the coming years after a death, for more help and guidance on how to get through the next stage, hurdle or chapter."

Programme manager Debbie McSwiney offered seven tips on how to deal with the day.

First, she says to communicate with your child about how they're feeling about Father's Day and what they want to do. Next you should engage them to talk about the day and explain although their dad isn't there he can still be remembered.

Debbie also recommended planning something to do on the day, whether this be arts & crafts or popping out in the car.

"If you prepare, it will reduce anxiety and help to manage the day," she said.

Many children won't be able to spend Father's Day with with their dad. Picture: Stock
Many children won't be able to spend Father's Day with with their dad. Picture: Stock

The charity worker listed allowing the child to choose different male role models in their lives to focus on during Father's Day as another good tip.

She also offered a range of ideas, such as making a card, baking, making music, going for a walk or visiting a place their dad liked to go as tips for managing the day.

Lastly, Debbie suggested finding out what your child's school is doing and finding out if they'd like to be involved anyway, as well as being open to asking for help and being comfortable declining it.

She said: "People around you may try to do what they think is best for you to help you, but if it’s not welcomed or what you want, do feel able to let them know that you’re okay and have made your own plans."

If your family needs help to support a bereaved child with Father’s Day, whether it’s the first without Dad or not, visit http://holdingonlettinggo.org.uk/contact-us/.

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